Self Expression In Children
Last week at the Kids Book Club, we were using whatever comes naturally to us to self express. It is very easy to assume that a child does not know what they are doing. It is even easier to mis-read children, especially with the busy lives we live as parents. Over the past few months, I have come to understand and respect that children are very different. What comes naturally to one will not happen with the next. We cannot pull a blanket solution for each child, especially if we want empowered children who grow up into responsible adults.
Sadly, our education system pulls a blanket solution for all our children, even with their different temperaments. I truly understand where they are coming from, with the attempt to protect parents and children from unscrupulous methods, and thus standardising our education system. What should we do then? Just give up and say that that’s how things are and that is how we grew up?
Not at the Kids Book Club. This is the one place where children get to tell me what they like, how they like to tell stories, what kinds of books they like to read, what games they love to play and what makes them happy or sad. We have children who prefer to sit quietly and read, why others are reading to each other. I have some who are so sensitive that they cannot function properly amidst the chaos of their friends, but if you put them in a seperate room, they become so creative and are able to concentrate better! You will have a child who will labelled a ‘problem child’. Only, this child has been trying to say something, and doesn’t know the best way to do it, or every time they try to say it, it’s translated the wrong way, and that adds to this child’s frustration. You will label a child ‘quiet’ yet, if you give him a one on one time for a chat, they surprise you.
That is what we were trying to do last week at the Kids Book Club, and I am glad we did. Suddenly, children were free to do what they love, and at the same time, get to read, in an environment where there are expectations piled on them. We will continue to do our best to empower the children for the couple of hours that they spend time at the Library, so that even when they go back to the school week schedule, they are refreshed.